I was thinking about all the various things in life that we need or require, and even come here for, alot of it is of course money. Bills pill up, medical conditions, dental conditons, food, the list goes on and on. Then I had to stop and ponder, if we all got excactly what we asked for would that make us happy. It would defiantly take care of a need, but would it make its happy or joyful. I dont know maybe some that would do it. would petting a dog that had no family, to take care of him, or her, or stopping and taking time, literally to smell the roses, I don't think would make you happy, but you might feel better, or would winning the lottery. Most of us, that have played the lottery you probably thought that would it! YOUR set, you might be for a while, if you have ever seen tv shows or even read in the paper what happens to many, that have won, this is what has happened, not all of them but quite a few....alot of them end up divorsed, WHY, THEY HAVE IT ALL NOW, DO THEY?, THESE ARE SOME OF THEhaving them done for me. Hey and get this, theres NO CHARGE for random acts of kindness! but there is a pay off. its a win- win situalion, not many of those an REASONS I HAVE HEARD OF, personally I think its because people get greedy, sorry but thats what I would call it. Heres some of the things that happen, WHEN THEY ALL OF SUDDEN ARE RICHER THEN THEIR DREAMS they start fighting over the house now, they've talked about getting for years and laughed, but then it was dreaming about what if they did win, I CALL IT THE "WHAT IF" DREAM, then they start to argue how big the house they have wanted for years is going to be, and funny they're arguing more now, over the new big house then then they did, when they were in there little apt. go figure, or now the husband is getting a hair trasnplant he had also had the if only dream, he's been bald a long time, now the wife is jealous, and hes getting attention from women in a way, he didnt before.. next they are in more debt then before they won the lotter Strange world.we live in, Threre's another couple, and this time its the wife that is getting all this new attention, from men, she falls into the trap, now she is going to lose the best man she ever had. Or the familys of the couples, you know the sister in law, the long lost cousin, step kids, verses biolgical kids, they all want their share, or so since they think it shoud be their share of the money, more argueing less loving, and supporting each other thru ther hard times. I dont know just was thinking of some this today, I read alot, and I read about people needing stuff, wanting things, and the big one, the IF ONLY type of things, I would gues that more times than not, it doesnt turn out the way they dreamed it would, IF ONLY, they could get rich over nite. last note on that, Im not including the other ones the people, not just the ones that do hit the lottery, or get a inheritance, the inheritance is whole differnt blog.. There people are but very few, my own opinion, that can handle a great sum of money dropped in there hands all at once, to SPEND HOW EVER THEY CHOOSE, WHEN ALL IS SAID AND DONE, AND SPENT, THEY LOSE! So I asked my self, I talk to myself often, at least I know Im listening, just a little humor to liten up some of our sad faces. So what brings a smile to a face the quickest, and I start to look around, and watch people, and what, puts smiles on peoples faces most of the time the fastest. Is when they see a little kid learning to walk, and they look so silly, on their little legs, and then they fall, and get up and fall again, cmon its cute, and keep falling over and over but they keep getting up, why, because they are determined. That makes me smile, from way deep in my soul, because of the innocence of it all, because of lessens, I just learnt from a two year old...this kind of smile turns into a feeling, not the tempory hoorah, of winning a scratcher card, I use to get . and if you win, its like yippee for a brief period. Or when you see the most breathtaking sunset, you have ever seen, and you want to call evey one, and say go out side and check this out. Well it worked for me..... and I smile again and somehow, you have a short time of peace, looking at that beautiful sunset, almost priceless in beauty, and it was free and I got to share it, don't believe me, the next time you see a sunset, the one you only once or twice in a liftetime, and you see the beauty of it, the innocence even of it, and you call and get someone else to go look at it, you just shared, what you could have kept toyourself, see if that doesn't put a smile on your face and give you a little peace.. Dare ya! I really like this one, now you will know I've lost it, but its true, when you watch other people being nice to each other, for no other reason, or motive, just because they like being nice, its almost unheard of, thats, because we most of time think they want someting from that person, its a set up, no one is nice, just because they like to make people happy, are they?????? I'm, not all the time, probaly not even half the time, I'm going try and change that, but I am a good portion of the time, call me weird again, but I like to make some laugh, when they have been crying for days, and I can be funny, really. I actually like CHEERING OTHERS UP , YOU CALL IT ENCOURAGING OTHERS, JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN, BUT FOR NO OTHER REASON, MAKE TO MAKE YOUR FELLO- MAN/WOMAN SMILE OR LAUGH, its a amazing thing, YOU SEE IT ON THIS SITE ALL THE TIME, PEOPLE WHO HAVE NEVER MET THE OTHER PERSON, PROBABLY NEVER WILL, TAKE TIME TO WRITE IN HERE, I MAY NOT HAVE THE MONEY I NEED , OR THE ORAL SURGEON, THAT I AM STILL HOPING TO FIND, HASN'T SHOWED YET...
but, something happens in here, out in the world, in you own house, when you are, kind and polite, and start thinking, of the other guy first, when your at the store, or in a parking lot, people can be vicous in parking lots, they see a parking place, and the nicest people become animals, scary huh.... but then you will occasionly see, THAT ONE THAT WAITS, AND EVEN THOUGH HE GOT THERE FIRST, AND LETS THE OTHER GUY HAVE THE SPOT. WOW, you almost don't believe it, you look around, like you must be seeing things, and then pull in to the spot, and you know it was real, and you smile, and feel gratitude for a few moments.
Random acts of kindness, I love them, I love doing them, and of course of I love y more. Kind of like that thing I posted somewhere in here about smiling.
Next time you are at the store, instead of pushing and making faces, and claiming I was here firsrt, and maybe you were there first, sooo. Let somebody go ahead of you, really, let someone go ahead of you , just once and awhile, and not the not next 20 people, then you'll end up getting resentful, about the whole thing. use a little wsdom on this one too, if you see someone, with there hands full and they drop something, or if they are elderly and trying to reach something in the store, better ask first, because we live in such a time, where people ore afraid of being mugged, ect. before you pick up something for someone, or even reach out to help that eldery person, you might say, can I help you get that, or pick that up, takes minutes out of your time or mine. YOU SEE IM TALKING TO MYSELF TOO, I HAVE DONE SOME OF THESE THINGS, AND I ALWAYS FEEL GOOD WHEN I DO, I JUST DON'T DO THEM ENOUGH. If you are DEPRESSED over DEBT, UNABLE TO GET MEDICAL OR DENTAL HELP YOU NEED, YET THE KEY WORD IS YET. or you're even been GREIEVING OVER THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE. PLEASE try some of these things, and for those who havent read my post on smiling, SMILING, is one of the quickest, and easiest, well maybe not easy at first, when every thing going on in your life, is making you either want to, or you are already ARE CRYING, SCREAMING, ALL THOSE NOT SO FUN THINGS WE DO, WHEN LIFE SEEMS TO HAVE TURNED ON US, So smiling, I guess is not real easy, but you can do it. So PLEASE SMILE at people, act as if, until you start really feeling that smile,you are giving away, you will feel it, if you just dont give up. some people, not many just arent use to people smiling, But the tired cashier who is getting all the complaints at the store and watching people argue, about who got in line first, She will apreceate the smile.. to put the frosting on the cake, and we all like frosting unless were diabetic, then just pretend its surgar free, my point, when smiling at spcecic people, cashiers, old people, well people who look like you feel on the inside. PLEASE ADD ONE MORE LITTLE THING, tell them to either HAVE A NICE DAY,OR MY FAVORITE, is MAKE IT A NICE DAY. Just one of those short sentences with a smile, will do wonders, you tell me when you are having a hard time and your some where, and some one smiles at you, do you think there crazy, and wonder why, or do smile back, its hard to believe in the world now a days, but sometimes you know, you just know someone is just BEING NICE, remember nice.. for many of us have forgotten, or worse yet become resentful at everyone, becase we are so caught up, and dare I say self absorbed, well I can say it, because I get that way, only too much. Its very easy to do.
Well I hadnt planned on going into the smile thing again, but you know Im glad I did or have. I think we need to be reminded starting with me, the importance of a smile, and again it COST U NOTHING AND THE PAY OFF IS WONDERFUL. Although it wont pay the bills , wont get your gas tank filled, or get my very needed teeth implants. or put a roof over your head, or food on your table. I HAVE TO SAY THAT THOUGH SOMETIMES U DO GET THINGS BACK, BUT DONT EXPECT ANYHING MATERIAL BACK, IT JUST HAPPENS SOMETIMES . ITS KIND OF LIKE YOU REAP WHAT YOU SEW, OR YOU CAN CALL IT KARMA, CALL IT WHAT EVER YOU LIKE, BUT ITS A PRINCIPLE THAT HAPPENS IN THE WORLD, I DON' T KNOW IT WORKS OR HAPPENS, I THINK PERSONALLY, THAT ITS A GOD THING, BUT AGAIN THATS JUST WHAT I THINK, WHATEVER IT IS. I HAVE SEEN IT WORK BOTH WAYS.
When you give negitvity, you probably get negivity back, give away a smile, pretty soon, if not right away you will get a smile. You know and this is true, well its all true, but I have experienced this, more than once, I have given food to people, family friends, people I didnt know-----I know Im a little looney. WHEN MY CUPBOARDS WERE ALMOST BARE, AND I KNEW SOMEONE, OR A FAMILY IN AS MUCH NEED, AS ME OR MORE, I WOULD GIVE HAlF OF IT TO THEM, I DONT HAVE KIDS AT HOME ANYMORE, SO YOU WITH KIDS, IF YOU TRY THIS, JUST MAKE SURE YOUR KIDS, HAVE WHAT EVER THEY NEED, ALTHOUGH I STILL THINK U WOULD END UP GETTING BACK MORE THAN YOU THINK... Every time I ever gave food out of my own need, , some one would end up, asking me how are you doing, usually people, friends , family, churchs sometimes, know when someone has needs, and they will ask , but some how it happens, and eveytime it did, I was always surprized, or maybe I heard of a food give way, right after I shared out of need, or I found 5 dollars on the ground, got a check I didnt know I had coming... it may have been that week or a few weeks later but I always got somehing back food or clothes given to me.. NOW MIND YOU I DIDN'T GIVE OUT OF MY NEED , JUST TO SEE IF SOMEBODY WOULD GIVE SOMETHING TO ME. AND IF THEY HADNT , THAT WOULD HAVE BEE N FINE, I HAD ALREADY HAD GOTTTEN MY PAY OFF, IF THATS WHAT YOU WANT TO CALL IT, WHEN I HAD MADE SOMEONES DAY BETTER, THERE IS NO VALUE TO PUT ON THAT, HELPING SOMEONE OUT, WHETHER IT BE WITH A SMILE, OR SAYING MAKE A NICE DAY, GIVING UP A PARKING SPACE, YOU HAD WAITED FOR, all of these things Ive suggested doing are RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS, THATS KIND OF WHAT I THINK OF, WHEN I HEAR THE TERM " PEOPLE HELPING PEOPLE", if just 1/4 of the people who read this or come on this site. started doing theses things, you may, or may not, get some your needs met, at least right away, but you will start to feel something you normally dont feel, happy, not giddy but happy, I like to use the word joyful, because you can feel joy in the middle of hard times, its that happy feeling but goes way deeper then you can imagine.
Anyway Im also going to start doing these things again, and more often, this can be come a habit, and a good habit, I do have the habit 99% of the time of smiling and saying Make it a good day, the rest of this I mentioned I need to work on.. try the smiling and saying have a nice day, or make it a nice day, evey time you go out to the market, or any where, to almost anyone,, except if some one is in a rage, Id wait on that one, use common sense, for most part you can smile at anyone, if you do try this please let me know how it worked for you, give it a few days unless you start, feeling better right away, and you might, also if you can suggest any other random acts of kindness, the list can go on for ever, depending on if YOU HAVE NOTHING ,or if you happen to have been blessed, or the lucky ones, WHO HAVE ALOT TO GIVE, MONEY WISE, OR FOOD WISE. then the random acts of kindness can be bigger, and if you do have money or other things that YOU HELP OTHERS WITH, you will feel this same joy too. There is a certain special feeling that anyone and all can get from HELPING OTHERS, from doing RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS.
Thanks, for dropping in, and let me how it works for you...
:) Make it a nice day!
